Genre: Nonfiction Psychology
You’ll like this if you like: Learning About Love.
“When a relationship endures, it is not because the flame never burns out. It is because the flame is always being relit.”
Love confuses and compels us—and it can destroy and define us. It has inspired our greatest poetry, defined our societies and our beliefs, and governs our biology. From the way infants attach to their parents, to the way we fall in love with another person, to the way some find a love for God or their pets, to the way we remember and mourn love after it ends, this book focuses on research that attempts, even in glancing ways, to deal with the long-term and the everyday. The most dangerous myth of love is that it’s easy, that we fall into the feeling and then the feeling takes care of itself. While we can easily measure the dopamine that causes the initial feelings of “falling” in love, the partnerships and devotions that last decades or longer remain a mystery. This book is about that mystery. Love, Lehrer argues, is not built solely on overwhelming passion, but, fascinatingly, on a set of skills to be cultivated over a lifetime.
To quote Urban Dictionary again, the second most popular definition of love is: The most spectacular, indescribable, deep, euphoric feeling for someone. But is that what love truly is?
A Book About Love takes you on a journey where you first discover the attachment between parents and their child, then how sacrifice and love are hopelessly intertwined, romantic love, love for God, love’s effect on memories, and finally the grit and strength loving someone both gives and requires.
Love is so simple, yet enormously complex. This book is an exploration not only of what love truly is, but its importance. Love isn’t the sparks flaring within Romeo and Juliet’s relationship. It’s the choice to compliment someone, listen to them, to empathize, to help. We show it through our actions. Sometimes it’s easy, but oftentimes it’s not. And it’s when love isn’t easy that choosing it matters most. If you’d like to explore the importance of love and its role in our lives, then I’d highly recommend reading this book. And if you do, prepare for a shift on your views of love and the dynamics of your relationships.
We’ve talked about the definition of love before. If you haven’t gotten the chance, what’s your definition of love? What does loving someone mean to you?